Memorial Service

IMG_2784-1 A memorial service for Nancy was held on Tuesday 14th October 2014 at St James Uniting Church in Box Hill South. Nancy had been a member of that church (previously St James Presbyterian Church) since moving back to Melbourne in 1972, so it was only fitting that it was held there.

Typical of Nancy, she had planned the entire service well in advance – from the hymns to the readings. Her brother, the Reverend Ken Melville, took the service.

Order of Service

Introduction Ken Melville


Hymn 1 Now Thank We All our God

Bible Readings Ecclesiastes 3:1-15

Romans 8:28, 35-39

Mark 10:13-16

IMG_2810Application Colin Roberston

I’m here to say a few things on behalf of Angus and me.

Many of you would know that our mum brought us up as a single mother.

I know at times she felt guilty and felt that she’d let us down because we didn’t grow up with a Dad. But I honestly can’t think anything important we missed out on.

  • Mum always gave us the best opportunities in life.
  • She sent us to a school that she could barely afford.
  • She arranged for Angus and me to play basketball here, in St James. I think she watched something like 2500 games over her life.
  • She got us into scouts.
  • We learnt to play musical instruments (if you count drums as a musical instrument)
  • We went on camping trips together. She even took us backpacking to Europe when we were kids

You know, it took me a long time to appreciate how difficult being a single mum must have been.

A few months of sleepless nights after my own son Charlie was born, I remember giving Mum a big hug and asked her how she did it all those years on her own.

I mean this parenting thing is hard enough when there’s two of you to share the load.

She just shrugged it off in that Mum-kind-of-way.

IMG_2783You just cope because you have to, she told me.

Thank you mum. You were courageous and dedicated. You never complained.

I can assure you that Angus and I were never left wanting of anything.

At this point I’d like to thank you David.

11 and half years ago you married my mother, here in this church.

I nearly fell over when my 70 year old mother told me she was “seeing someone”.

That the “someone” turned out to be a man of such generous spirit, compassion and good humour to boot, made mum so happy.

So thank you.

Many of you may not be aware about the terrible genetic condition that Mum suffered from – a condition that both Angus and I have inherited, and sadly may also affect my children.

It’s brought so much torment and suffering to us over the years.

I am, of course, talking about support for the Melbourne Football Club.

I guess we should be thankful we weren’t born into Collingwood.

At my first game with Mum in 1974 we were thrashed by St Kilda, and in my last with her, just 6 or so weeks ago, we were thrashed by Hawthorn.

But it doesn’t matter really.

I just loved going to the footy with her, and with Angus, and my extended family and now my son Charlie.

So thanks mum for sharing those times.

and while we’re on football…a quick anecdote

While Mum would have shuddered at the thought of being described a feminist, I remember many years ago at a football match, when some toothless Collingwood supporter yelled out “pick the ball up, you bloody woman”.

Mum then said quite loudly, “being called a woman’s a compliment”.

So thanks Mum for teaching us about respect and about standing up for what’s right and against what’s wrong.

Finally, I want to Thank you Mum for loving us.

For all our foibles, our weaknesses, and

Whenever we may have disappointed you.

Whenever we were down and out.

Or needed to borrow your car.

Sick or broke.

Whenever we needed you

You gave us unconditional love and support.

In the end,

that’s the greatest gift you gave.

Thank you Mum.

IMG_2805Eulogy Ken Melville

Hymn 2 One More Step Along the World I Go


Hymn 3 Thine Be The Glory


Hymn 1 

Now thank we all our God, with heart and hands and voices, Who wondrous things hath done, in whom his world rejoices; Who from our mothers’ arms hath blessed us on our way With countless gifts of love, and still is ours today.

O may this bounteous God through all our life be near us, With ever joyful hearts and blessèd peace to cheer us; And keep us in His grace, and guide us when perplexed; And free us from all ills, in this world and the next!

All praise and thanks to God the Father now be given; The Son and Holy Ghost, one Lord in highest heaven; The one eternal God, whom earth and heaven adore; For thus it was, is now, and shall be evermore.

Martin Rinkart 1586 – 1649

Hymn 2 

One more step along the world I go

One more step along the world I go

From the old things to the new

Keep me travelling along with you.


And it’s from the old I travel to the new.

Keep me travelling along with you

Round the corners of the world I turn,

More and more about the world I learn.

And the new things that I see

You’ll be looking at along with me. Refrain

As I travel through the bad and good

Keep me travelling the way I should.

Where I see no way to go

You’ll be telling me the way, I know. Refrain

Give me courage when the world is rough,

Keep me loving though the world is tough.

Leap and sing in all I do

Keep me travelling along with you. Refrain

You are older than the world can be

You are younger than the life in me.

Ever old and ever new

Keep me travelling along with you. Refrain

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Note: photos courtesy of Julie Wintle. No photos were taken during the actual service but Julie snapped a few shots afterwards and I am eternally grateful for that. If anybody who appears in these photos would like them removed please send a message via this website. 


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